Do your boundaries come with question marks? If your boundaries come with question marks, they're not really boundaries. They're just suggestions. Boundaries aren't rules for other people. They’re rules for you , the boundary-setter. You are the only one that can honor them. WHAT MOST PEOPLE THINK A BOUNDARY IS: I express a preference, or make a request, and the other person obliges without resistance or question. WHAT A BOUNDARY IS: I state what I’m available for, or willin

People-Pleasing vs Kindness - A case of misguided intentions The difference between kindness and people-pleasing is the difference between generosity and fear.  The litmus test to tell the difference is in how you feel.  If you’re having trouble not saying yes when you really mean no, how does it feel? Not great, does it? It doesn’t feel true. It’s not sincere. You have resentment whether you want to or not.  When you’re giving out of the kindness of your heart, because you t