WHAT WE GET WRONG ABOUT MOTIVATION If you can’t find motivation for something that feels important to you, a big goal, a meaningful...

"Progress not perfection" is quite the buzz phrase these days. A lot of people find it useful, and that’s a good thing. For some of us, it sounds like we’re being asked to settle, to lower our expectations of ourselves, and this can backfire. Why bother if we can’t achieve what we're after? Why make the effort for some piddly little progress that feels like nothing?  What does it mean to practice "progress not perfection"? The missing link here is in how to be purposeful wi

My client taught me a fantastic new motto. “I’m not in it to win it; I’m in it to finish it!”  She’s in the home stretch of finishing her BS degree, having gone back to school after many years in the working world. It’s an abrupt transition, and it’s been tough, especially for an adult with ADHD. Plus, now with many university programs conducted entirely online, it's even harder to manage her time, motivation and executive function.  Many times she’s feared being unable to fi

I got beef with imposter syndrome. I’m not buying its BS. What does it mean to have imposter syndrome? You’re either an imposter or you’re not. No? What is imposter syndrome ? Imposter syndrome means you FEEL like an imposter.  But why?  Are you misrepresenting yourself for fraudulent gain?  Are you lying about who you are and what you can do?  No? Then you’re not an imposter. Yes? Then you don’t have Imposter Syndrome. You have an integrity problem. If you’re worried about h

I had a rather engaging conversation with a potential new client recently, where he was lamenting about how accustomed he’s become to scraping by. For years, he’s gone through periods where his future was entirely uncertain; his financial security was nil; at times he was in danger of losing everything, yet he always found a way to get by.  He’s tired. He’s afraid he’ll keep living like this if he doesn’t take some escalated measure to change things. He’s gotten too good at t